Dare to Care Parent Presentation
Dare to Care is a program we have introduced at St. Matthew to encourage all students to speak up about negative behaviour and bullying.The purpose of this program is to encourage all members of our school community to speak up against negative behaviour, including bullying.
Key messages from the evening:
- Bullying is when a person or group of people repeatedly and intentionally use their power to hurt, embarrass, threaten or exclude another person.
- Imbalance of power between the bully and their target.Target feels helpless to defend themselves.
- Unequal levels of affect.
Tools to teach your child to handle negative behaviour directed at them or another student:
- Help - Tell your child to ask for Help from a teacher/adult/supervisor at school. Don't whine and be respectful. The child should say "Please help me..." and then calmly describe what is going on (not just "he's bugging me").
- Assert yourself - tell the person to stop. Do it twice, and then walk away. Do not get in an argument. Tell an adult if it doesn't stop.
- Avoid - Walk away - do not engage, no eye rolling, no comments, no confrontation. Tell an adult if it doesn't stop.
- Self-Talk – don’t internalize what is said, say positive things to yourself.
What to do if you feel your child is being bullied:
- Listen to your child and take them seriously. Find out exactly what is going on and document the incidents that are happening. Try to get details (what time, where, who, what was said/done, etc).
- If there are repeated incidents bring your concern to your child's classroom/homeroom teacher. Give the school some time to respond.
- Follow up with the teacher a week later. And then a few days after that if not resolved.
- If incidents are still happening and things are not being resolved - go to Administration. Continue to document this whole time.
What to do if your child is bullying:
- Stay Calm – do not react with anger or defensiveness.Talk to the child, the teacher and administrators.Keep in mind that a bully will try to deny or minimize wrongdoing.
- Be Firm – tell your child that behaviour like this will not be tolerated.
- The school has many more strategies that you can use and we can discuss.Please contact us for support.